Fixing a Relationship: 3 Immediate Action Steps

There are many situations that arise in a marriage, that lead to either one or both partners to think that the relationship is in disrepair, and needs to be fixed. You could be at the painful receiving end of an extra-marital affair, or be one half of a neglectful relationship.

If you are reading this article, then there is some amount of self-realization that has brought you to this page. Whatever your reason may be, your relationship needs fixing, and here are 3 steps you can take immediately to set off on the right track towards saving your marriage.

1) Owning the damage, and the repair:

Imagine a vase has broken in front of you. It could be at the reception of a posh office, or on the kitchen counter of your family home. Which one of these two given locations would push you more towards fixing the vase? It would be in your family home, since you feel the sense of belonging there, as compared to an office you may be visiting for work and nothing more.

It is only when you own the damage, that you can move to mend what is broken. The same is with you marriage: owning the damage means having to own the repair required as well. Take responsibility for what may have gone wrong and is your fault and fix it, as you would your mother’s favorite vase.

2) Forgive, and truly forget:

Commit to forgiveness as you would to your marriage. You cannot possibly venture forward with your spouse if you are constantly referring to their mistakes in the past. Pick your direction, and if you decide to move forward, stop looking back in your marriage.

Looking back is healthy only when you take out productive action steps that you can take as a couple. However, if you are limiting your perspective on your spouse or your relationship, then you are better off focusing entirely on the future with a clean slate.

3) How you look shows how you feel:

You will not be taken seriously at work if you were to walk into the office building in your pajamas, albeit with a steaming mug of coffee to wake you up. The same way your partner will doubt your efforts towards fixing your relationship if your attire and body language is the same as before.

It could be defensive, sluggish, distracted, aggressive, or even complacent. Your spouse has made associations with the way you dress and speak around them, just how you have. To change the way your spouse receives your efforts, change the way you present yourself. You will have no one to blame but yourself if you dress and act the same way, to expect different results than before.

Fixing a relationship demands action. If you want results, then you must give it some sweat.

Not an expert in your relationship? Then you’re going to have to become one. It’s going to be a little tough, but one you’ve done it – it will seem like a piece of cake. That’s why nobody talks about this when you are getting married. Because most people want you to believe that a great marriage is a turn-key overnight solution.

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To your perfectly successful and happy marriage.

Fatima A. Khan