Can I Save My Relationship? 3 Ways to Know the Answer

Your relationship may be at a point where you constantly ask yourself whether you will emerge victorious at the finish line. It could be because your marriage is recovering from an affair, a disloyalty, or another emotional setback. For some it could even be settling down after a physical impairment.

For any of these situations it is perfectly natural to wonder whether you will even make it to the end or not. Your best gift to yourself now is to give yourself the space to think your course through.

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Relationship Problem Advice: Where and When to Not Look

As an expert relationship coach, I am frequently approached by women who have had enough of marriage advice that has not helped them save their marriages, and instead has placed them in a bigger muddle than they started out with.

By and large, these are the elements or kinds of people that you ought to steer clear from, so you can gain a breath of fresh air and a clearer perspective on your marriage and what it takes to make it work.

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Keep Your Marriage: 3 Tips to Win Against All Odds

As a relationship coach, I have come across a fair share of individuals who come up with the most negative of cliches when it comes to describing marriage and married life. In truth marriage is as simple or difficult as you make it in your mind, since your mind comes up with the words first that form thoughts, ideas, actions and ultimately your personality.

Here are a 3 tips to help you keep your marriage against all odds, despite what people around you have reaped from marriage or what they expect of it.

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Does a Separation Save a Marriage? How to Know It Can Save Yours

Since I am a relationship coach, specializing in helping women save their marriage, I am often faced with questions on separation and whether it really helps a relationship. Yes, separation can save a relationship from further damage, and even help repair it.

However you must know whether separation is the correct step for your particular case, and be able to identify when it is a premature decision as well.

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The Litmus Test of Acceptance

You know you have not fully accepted your spouse for what he is if you are still thinking of ways to change him. This is the litmus test of acceptance.

I have sisters approaching me with life goals that involve their husbands, and I want to tell you that your goals in life are literally your goals. You are only in control of how you think, what you do and consequently what you have in your life. If you want more of anything for your husband, the first step is to accept him the way he is, and then work on the things that you want for yourself.

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Doctor'S Orders: Fall in Love

“And one of His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest in them, and He put between you love and compassion; most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect.” (Surah Al-Room, 30:21)

I read in an article today about the feeling of love serving as a pain-killer, even as good as morphine. These results were based on a study on a group of men and women and how they responded to images of their beloved.

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Share the Road

Share-It Wednesdays is based on the hadith of our Prophet sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam, “None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.”

Spread all that you benefit from for the sake of Allah ‘azza wa jal, share it with sisters whom you feel may benefit and even with those whom you feel may not and pray you would!

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Of Gifts and Grace

Our Prophet, sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam told us to,”Give gifts to one another, for gifts take away rancour.”

In another account, we learn that he, sal Allahu alayhi wa salla used to accept a gift and give compensation for it (Bukhari).

A gift is literally anything a person gives without expecting a payment or return. In a marriage it could be turning the kettle on in the morning without being asked, unloading the dishwasher or dryer, or even tidying up before going to bed. All these are gifts, and to follow the sunnah would mean to reciprocate each gesture.

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Touch and Touché : How Physical Touch Affects a Marriage

You must have experienced it to some degree in your marriage. I’ve heard some women jokingly call it the Cold War, since the couple shares long, steady periods of silence amongst themselves, all the time building up on ammunition to strike next, at the best given time.

The most fatalistic aspect of such a situation is the language used, starting from the name. What you say is what you get: so the chances of running into a pleasant situation increase when you call it the spring of romance instead of the Cold War. The outcome is equally predictable: there is no meltdown until one party gives in to a smug spouse, who takes his / her sweet time to respond.

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